Presence & Perspective Coaching
You can’t control what people say. You can’t control what they do. You can’t rewrite what has already happened or guarantee what happens next.
But you can change the way you walk through it.
Welcome
Less time replaying, overthinking, blaming, predicting and trying to control everything beyond their reach. More time noticing what is here, seeing clearly and choosing what happens next.
A different way forward
So much of our energy is spent trying to rearrange the world so that we can finally feel okay.
If they would just change.
If that hadn’t happened.
If I knew what was going to happen.
If she hadn’t said that.
If he understood.
If I’d made a different decision.
If life would just go according to plan.
But what if peace doesn’t come from finally getting the whole world to cooperate?
What if it begins with learning how to meet the world differently?That’s the work we do here.Presence
Rumination takes us backwards.
Worry takes us forwards.
Presence brings us back here.
We learn to notice when the mind has disappeared into yesterday’s conversations, tomorrow’s possibilities and stories that may not even be true.
Not by pretending difficult things haven’t happened. But by recognising when thinking about them has stopped being useful.
You don’t live in yesterday.
You don’t live in tomorrow.
Your life is happening here.
Perspective
Why did that affect me so much?
Why do I always react this way?
What am I assuming?
What am I trying to control?
What belongs to me—and what belongs to someone else?
Perspective isn’t positive thinking. It’s learning to see clearly enough that you have a choice about what happens next.
The leather on your feet
There is an old Buddhist teaching about trying to cover the entire world in leather so we never have to feel the rough ground beneath our feet.
Impossible.
Difficult people. Disappointment. Change. Uncertainty. Endings. Beginnings. Things we didn’t choose and things we cannot control.
But we don’t need to cover the world. We can put leather on our own feet.
Work with me
This isn’t about sitting across from someone who tells you how you should live your life.
It’s a conversation that helps you hear yourself differently. Together, we look at what’s happening, what’s keeping you stuck, what you’re reacting to, what you’re carrying, what you’re trying to control—and what is actually yours to change.
replay · reaction · what if?
awareness · choice · you
Where Is Your Tongue?
Before the reaction.
Before the spiral.
Before you say the thing you’ll spend the next three hours replaying in your head.
Where Is Your Tongue? takes mindfulness out of the meditation room and puts it into ordinary life—relationships, conversations, arguments, overthinking, awkward moments and all the beautifully messy bits of being human.
Practical. Funny. Real.
No mountaintop required.
Discover the bookWords to live by
Not as rules. Not as religion. As little reminders to come back to ourselves.
“Peace comes from within.
Do not seek it without.”
A collection of Buddhist teachings, reflections and everyday perspective shifts for the moments when your mind has wandered off without you.
Read the wordsA pause, right here
Maybe today is simply about noticing.
01Where has your mind gone?
02What story are you telling yourself?
03What are you trying to control?
04What are you tolerating?
05What are you reacting to?
06What can you actually do something about?
Come back here.
This is where your life is.
Kristy Travers
Ready to spend less time replaying and more time living? Begin with a simple conversation.